Shawnda Muir
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Dear Friends,

The Bible tells us to look to the interests of others (Philippians 2:4, for example). That’s good! But most of us probably put too much stock into what we think other people think about us … and that’s not good.

There’s a delicate balance between caring about other people and being caught in an endless cycle of people pleasing. Maybe you can see yourself (or someone you love) in these scenarios:

  • In a nutshell, you just want people to like you. Nothing wrong with that, right?
  • You hate/fear conflict and avoid direct confrontation at all costs. Meanwhile, your anger about a certain situation simmers under the surface … and boils over sometimes.
  • You are hyper-aware of what you see as your own flaws – and you believe that everyone else sees those same things, so you have to compensate somehow.
  • Realistically, you’re way overcommitted (to good things!) and that’s impacting your personal relationships.

On the following Focus on the Family® Broadcasts, Dr. Mike Bechtle offers practical advice for all of us who struggle with people pleasing.

Part 1

Part 2

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