Every couple experiences many seasons of life over the course of their marriage. All these seasons can be related to stages of life, major changes, challenges, stress, loss, abundance, and even the natural cycles that we experience throughout the year. When our marriages enter a new season, we must be able to embrace it in order to continue moving forward together in a healthy way.
In this post, Dr. Les and Leslie Parrott share a few ways that you can embrace a new season in your marriage. Let’s read on to learn how.
Often, in our relationship with our spouse, we might spend a little too much time thinking about the past. During difficult situations, we may look back on better times with nostalgia. While taking the positives from past experiences is wise, it’s also possible to become bitter about a situation that we’re facing today. Likewise, if we’re struggling to let go of past pain, we can actually hurt the happiness and harmony in our marriage today.
It’s important to honor past seasons, but respectfully leave them in the past. Don’t hold onto negative or heavy emotions that pull you down and are detrimental to the season you’re in today. You can, however, take the blessings and lessons you learned from the past and use those to inform your future.
Focus on gratitude in the moment, no matter what is going on in your life right now. Gratitude can shift our perspective on so many things, even when times are hard. When we focus on what we’re grateful for, we can embrace the season we’re in and overcome many difficulties that might make us feel stuck otherwise.
Gratitude can help us move into a new season in our marriage because we’re learning to embrace the moment for what it is, and appreciate its blessings. Take some time to write down what you’re grateful for and to talk about those things. Spend a little time with your spouse meditating on blessings and focusing on feelings of thankfulness. Whatever this season holds for you, navigate it with intentional gratitude in your heart.
Another great way to embrace a new season in your marriage is to celebrate everything that’s brought you to this moment. Even if times are hard, you can look back through the years and see all the different ways that you’ve overcome adversity together and come out on the other side stronger.
Whatever this season looks like, there is a positive accomplishment, an achievement, or a milestone, that you can celebrate. Celebrate the accomplishments of this moment, or what you’re working toward in this season. If you’re facing hard times, remind yourself that you overcame before–and you can do it again. Bring the joy of those victories with you through this new season and let them carry you forward.
During a new season of marriage, it’s important to stay grounded where you are and be grateful for what you have. However, looking toward the future can also help you to embrace where you are right now. Spend a little time dreaming of where you’re headed. Where might this season take you next?
You don’t want to live in the future so much that you’re not present in the moment, but do consider what’s going to come next. What is this current season leading to? Seeing the coming transition and the future potential of where you and your spouse could be going together will help you take that next step when it’s time.
Embracing new seasons together can help you strengthen your marriage. If you’d like deeper insights into making your marriage as strong and resilient as possible, then our book, Strengthen Your Marriage, could be a great place to start. You can get your copy here.
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