Life Change - Wow, I'm sure we can all relate to Life Changes with all the unplanned changes related to Covid, never mind normal life changes. Please enjoy this post from Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott.
Once you’re married, it doesn’t take much time at all to get a feel for how you and your spouse each respond to life change. How you respond to change can affect your marriage, for better or worse. And it can tell you and your spouse a lot about one another.
Some couples experience drastic life changes early on in their marriages, while others might be married a little longer before they do. But every couple will face stressors, upheaval, and unexpected change at some point in their marriage–and maybe more than once.
So how do your individual responses to change affect your marriage? Let’s take a look.
Drawing on optimism during a time of drastic or difficult change can help lighten emotional burdens for both you and your spouse. It’s incredibly valuable to be able to look at a situation you’re facing and see the opportunity in it.
If just one spouse can see the positives during a season of life change, that can help to lift the mood for both of you. And, if one of you happens to be a little more pessimistic, the daily dose of optimism can help to balance that out.
In contrast, responding poorly to change can add unnecessary stress to both you and your spouse during a transitional time. Not only can pessimism make an already heavy situation heavier–it can also create additional problems you might not have faced otherwise.
During times of change, it’s important to try to look past the doom and gloom of pessimism to see the good possibilities the change could bring. If you’re not able to do that, it could place significant stress on your spouse and, as a result, your marriage as a whole.
How you and your spouse respond, act, and react during a time of change can either bring you closer together, or drive you apart. That’s why it’s so important to navigate changes carefully, paying close attention to how your spouse is doing and how you are handling yourself, too.
The goal of any married couple during a transitional period should be to cling to one another as you navigate this life season together. Here are a few ways you can stay close as you work through this time:
Have regular check-ins with one another to ask how you’re each doing. Practice active, compassionate listening and help your spouse to feel truly heard.
As you make this transition together, the most important thing you can do is hold onto God and one another. Do that, and you’ll come out on the other side stronger than before.
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